The psychology of romance

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The psychology of romance

Post: # 12388Post ronald »

I found that the below links contained helpful explanations in further understanding the "How does it work" on the topic.

Judith A. Reisman, PhD (The Structure & Function Of Erototoxic-Pornographic Sexual Media)
http://www.drjudithreisman.com/archives ... ure_f.html

Henry Makow Ph.D (Romance/Sex = Potent Mind Control)
http://www.henrymakow.com/sexlove_as_a_ ... rol_s.html

Wilhelm Reich (THE MASS PSYCHOLOGY OF FASCISM, Contents I.4. The social function of sexual suppression)
http://www.whale.to/b/reich.pdf
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Re: The psychology of romance

Post: # 12389Post shezmear »

Looked at the info I'm not sure what to make of it Ronald , you may need to offer some direction as to what you think about it. I can't seem to make a lot of sense of it. The book by Reich looks like a lot of heavy reading, have you read it?, can you offer a distilled version?
With Romance it's like a roller roaster best experienced then read about so to speak. There was one part I found hear to be accurate talking from experiences and that is the idea "The woman has become a surrogate for his own soul. He has lost his soul by loving her, and now he thinks she is going to give it back". Something like this happened to me once. Jung has a interesting take on it which I would have to agree with. It can happen for men or women. My advice is make sure it does not happen to you and if it does learn quickly what is going on. I think the best lesson I have learned from romance is make sure before you invest in anyone that feelings a mutual because if they are not your in trouble. Compatibility, mutual feelings ...essential.
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Re: The psychology of romance

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I think this information shows some elements that can sometimes contribute to a distorted thought process and in regard to the development of truly spiritual relationships this maybe a hindrance to overcome first. I found it therefor interesting and important to investigate since the behavior of acting romantic is often seen as popular from what I can observe. I wanted to further discover the mechanisms that influence this behavior and how the mind works through them. It becomes quite possible to imagine a whole different set of, let's call them "relationship values" (for lack of better words) once the current system is understood. I guess I was pondering a migration from one system into more refined one where relations can grow far beyond our imagination. So, I stumbled upon the psychology of romance. It thus seems an essential experience to learn from before expecting a deeper, more wider scope of relationship experience, direct spirit to spirit.

I did read the book from Reich. I believe you can find a wiki summary on that book, but I would not be able to offer a neutral distillation and would also not dare, having not studied sufficiently, I fear I would contribute with a wrong explanation.

For those seriously interested, it is worth a read, though it takes some time to digest.
I have placed these 3 links in connection since it shows how many areas this behavior interrelates with.
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